My assumption...that guy had some "out of body, probably drug induced state." But you know what they say about assuming!I had her looking at a 19 but then her brother told her a story about a guy that took 16 shots from a 9mm and has her convinced it is not a good round.
I agree completely. Though personally, working in the emergency room, I have seen too many 9mm shooting victims live. Yes, some are in drugs that keep them going, but most of them aren't. I've seen center of mass shots that you just knew had to end it, and they make it through. I believe a .40 is perfect for SD applications, though it isn't for everyone. Just see what she is comfortable with. Like I said, if she likes the .45, go with the .45, but let her try the GAP along with the ACP. Most females have smaller hands and even with the SF versions, still have difficulty holding on to it. The Glock 38 is the same dimensions as the Glock 19, but chambered in .45GAP, and is much easier for females to get a grip on.JHC said:+1 on what brutusvk just wrote.
IMO a person's first carry gun, should be as small and easy to always carry as that person's dedication will allow. I am not persuaded by arguments against 5 shot Smith and Wesson revolvers because they're so hard to shoot. They aren't that hard to shoot center mass at 5 feet! And several women I've known who've chosen them have no desire whatsoever to build the skill to shut down an active shooter event. They want to be able to peel some smell cretin off of them at near contact ranges and to do that they need a gun. A full size G17 or 31 in the car if they aren't in the car won't help.
I am dedicated to carrying the semiauto combat pistol from G19 size upwards but if someone isn't, and they buy big, they likely won't have it on them always.