Yep this pretty much sums it up. There are so many variables that you honestly can't say one bullet or caliber is better than the other in handguns (unless you're talking .44 mag or .500 S&W). With the less-powerful calibers (9mm, .40 S&W, .45ACP) calibers, it really does depend on where you shoot them, and then how much area is damaged and how much force is transmitted into the target's body. If it has 10,000 lbs of force but the bullet sails right through them without displacing much energy, it does no good.
Unless you are talking central nervous system of a heart shot, the larger diameter (larger area damaged) of the bullet, and how much force it TRANSFERS not how much it says it has on the box, and the amount of blood loss that wound causes are the determining factors.