I had the exact same problem with that Barnes ammo in my 42. I kept six rounds of it just so I could show a buddy next time we went to the range. We were at the range Friday and I loaded a clip full of the Barnes XD and got five malfunctions out of six rounds. I passed on my range report to the guys working at the front desk.
Other than the Barnes ammunition, I've put Winchester white box, HDR, golf dot, and several other different types of defense and FMJ ammo through it and it's run without any malfunctions in about 6 trips to the range.